“Now I get TWO birthdays!”: The Upsides of Divorce for Kids

Penn A. Dodson

One thing we have seen time and time again when observing divorcing couples is that often while parents bicker and litigate about what the “best interests of the child” are, they don't actually pay much attention to what is important (and not important) to the kids themselves.

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Trading Something That’s “Fine” For Something Better

Penn A. Dodson

Sometimes your life is “fine.” That usually is an indication that it they could be better. You just may not be sure how … and not willing or able to explore that question. Better doesn’t necessarily mean changing your relationship(s). It does mean understanding what better means to you and inviting your relationships to grow with you. Then that choice is theirs.

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Decision making

3 Phases To Move You Forward: Phase 2 - Transitions

Penn A. Dodson

In this three-part blog series, we discuss how to successfully navigate major life changes such as divorce. Any major life change can be broken down into three primary phases: Decision, Transition, Equilibrium. This article will focus on the Transition phase.

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After divorce

What’s A “Family”?

Penn A. Dodson

Of course in recent years the popular conception of what a nuclear “family” is has shifted from husband plus wife plus 2 kids (one boy, one girl), a dog, and two cats, to something much more inclusive: widowed single parent plus children, out of wedlock child plus parent plus grandparent, same sex couples (with or without kids), kids with divorced parents plus new spouses, and many, many others.

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Custody

Trading Something That’s “Fine” For Something Better

Penn A. Dodson

Some people are in horrible circumstances, and while the logistics or inertia or fear of the unknown or fear of consequences may get in the way of making a change, the decision to make some kind of change generally isn't the hard part...

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Conflict resolution

The Changing of Your Social Life & Community With Divorce

Penn A. Dodson

I'll be blunt: when you get divorced, your social life changes. Almost always. But wait, there's more! Sometimes – MOST of the times – that can be a GOOD thing. Often, it's for the better – way. Sometimes, and/or in other realms, it's awkward and requires some navigation to get through the changes.

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After divorce