When we imagine the effects of Divorce on our children, parents often project their own fears, worries and concerns on their children. Instead, there is an opportunity to listen to what is important to our children, and that they may see benefits as well as loss, in the change in your family. Let them tell you in their words … in their way.
At New Leaf Family, we have re-thought the family law process from beginning to end to align with our clients’ values. We help our clients make better decisions, reduce conflict, and improve outcomes, all with a billing plan that is reasonable, predictable, and structured in a way to incentivize our client, and the New Leaf Family team to work towards the best resolutions chosen by the client.
In a divorce, many people want to avoid or minimize fighting, even though there may be many angry or hurt feelings. The key to doing so may not be intuitive: Embrace The Conflict.
“Having your day in court” may sound like a good idea … but in matters involving your family’s life, what it really means is turning over the most important decisions affecting you, to a total stranger. The result can take a long time, and is often not what you would have chosen had you been able. And you are able … you may just need a little support.
In a divorce, fighting over “stuff” can often be a proxy for working out all the inequities that the soon-to-be-divorced couple perceive from their marriage. Emotions can run hot, and many resources: financial, emotional, and energetic, can be misspent on engaging in a battle, when winning won’t feel all that great. There is a better way.
A divorce has many costs, in money, time and personal angst. While money is a primary consideration, it is important to also focus on how divorce will affect you and your family. One way to ease the difficulty, is to make the cost lower, and more certain … and to make the process serve you, the client, better.
If you are one of the lucky ones who has decided to get a divorce in a relatively conflict-free way, congratulations. Count your lucky stars. You may be tempted to just try your best to figure out the paperwork and handle it all pro se (self-represented). Do. Not. Do. This. Your future self ...
Parental Alienation is real, and it is harmful to the children. You may wish for the Wisdom of Solomon in these situations. To get it, you must not hope for King Solomon himself to swoop in, but must instead take steps toward improving the situation for your children, and yourself. Working with an experienced team can help you get your children out of the middle, and to stop this bad behavior from their other parent (and others.)
Sometimes it feels like working on your parenting time is like negotiating with a crazy person. It can be exhausting, and leave you feeling worn out, so that you don’t show up to your parenting time as the best version of yourself. It doesn’t have to be that way. You can negotiate with your ex … and know when it is time to bring in the professionals.
In this three-part blog series, we discuss how to successfully navigate major life changes such as divorce. Any major life change can be broken down into three primary phases: Decision, Transition, Equilibrium. This article will focus on the Transition phase.
In this three-part blog series, we discuss how to successfully navigate major life changes such as divorce. Any major life change can be broken down into three primary phases: Decision, Transition, Equilibrium. This article will focus on the Decision phase.
Sometimes one (or both) spouses in a marriage live with a mental health issue. When it comes to ending the partnership, these issues can make the process much more difficult. The "system" isn't designed for this. But a caring, careful law firm can help you stay on track, and make the best decisions for yourself and your family.
"Custody" is an area fraught with challenges as you embark on a new path with your family. Even the word implies that one person "gets" it, and others do not. In today's world, there are many ways that parents can work together to raise their children ... and options when working together just won't ... work.