When we imagine the effects of Divorce on our children, parents often project their own fears, worries and concerns on their children. Instead, there is an opportunity to listen to what is important to our children, and that they may see benefits as well as loss, in the change in your family. Let them tell you in their words … in their way.
Divorce and/or custody issues are hard enough. If your spouse exhibits psychological traits of the “Dark Triad,” not only will it be more difficult, but getting fair treatment from the system may become harder as well. Learning to recognize the “Dark Triad” is an important first step. Working with professionals who know how to protect your interests in light of it is essential.
Parental Alienation is real, and it is harmful to the children. You may wish for the Wisdom of Solomon in these situations. To get it, you must not hope for King Solomon himself to swoop in, but must instead take steps toward improving the situation for your children, and yourself. Working with an experienced team can help you get your children out of the middle, and to stop this bad behavior from their other parent (and others.)
Sometimes it feels like working on your parenting time is like negotiating with a crazy person. It can be exhausting, and leave you feeling worn out, so that you don’t show up to your parenting time as the best version of yourself. It doesn’t have to be that way. You can negotiate with your ex … and know when it is time to bring in the professionals.
"Custody" is an area fraught with challenges as you embark on a new path with your family. Even the word implies that one person "gets" it, and others do not. In today's world, there are many ways that parents can work together to raise their children ... and options when working together just won't ... work.