In a divorce, many people want to avoid or minimize fighting, even though there may be many angry or hurt feelings. The key to doing so may not be intuitive: Embrace The Conflict.
In this final installment of our series about Mediation we discuss the importance of Preparation. In this three-part series, we take you through what mediation is (and isn’t), why it can be useful, and some tips about how to maximize your chances of success. You may want to check out Part 1 – On Your Terms (https://www.newleaf.family/what-is-mediation-really-and-do-i-want-it) and Part 2 – The Process (https://www.newleaf.family/mediation-ii-what-is-mediation-really-and-do-i-want-it--the-process), before reading this one.
This is a continuation of our series about Mediation. In this three-part series, we take you through what mediation is (and isn’t), why it can be useful, and some tips about how to maximize your chances of success. You may want to check out Part 1 – On Your Terms before reading this one. (https://www.newleaf.family/what-is-mediation-really-and-do-i-want-it)
In this three-part series, we take you through what mediation is (and isn’t), why it can be useful, how it all works, and some tips about how to maximize your chances of success.
In a divorce, fighting over “stuff” can often be a proxy for working out all the inequities that the soon-to-be-divorced couple perceive from their marriage. Emotions can run hot, and many resources: financial, emotional, and energetic, can be misspent on engaging in a battle, when winning won’t feel all that great. There is a better way.
Divorce and/or custody issues are hard enough. If your spouse exhibits psychological traits of the “Dark Triad,” not only will it be more difficult, but getting fair treatment from the system may become harder as well. Learning to recognize the “Dark Triad” is an important first step. Working with professionals who know how to protect your interests in light of it is essential.
If you are one of the lucky ones who has decided to get a divorce in a relatively conflict-free way, congratulations. Count your lucky stars. You may be tempted to just try your best to figure out the paperwork and handle it all pro se (self-represented). Do. Not. Do. This. Your future self ...
Parental Alienation is real, and it is harmful to the children. You may wish for the Wisdom of Solomon in these situations. To get it, you must not hope for King Solomon himself to swoop in, but must instead take steps toward improving the situation for your children, and yourself. Working with an experienced team can help you get your children out of the middle, and to stop this bad behavior from their other parent (and others.)
Sometimes it feels like working on your parenting time is like negotiating with a crazy person. It can be exhausting, and leave you feeling worn out, so that you don’t show up to your parenting time as the best version of yourself. It doesn’t have to be that way. You can negotiate with your ex … and know when it is time to bring in the professionals.
Sometimes one (or both) spouses in a marriage live with a mental health issue. When it comes to ending the partnership, these issues can make the process much more difficult. The "system" isn't designed for this. But a caring, careful law firm can help you stay on track, and make the best decisions for yourself and your family.